14 Things It’s Time You Forgave Yourself For

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1. The big things that you changed your mind about

The dream job you never thought you’d quit. The person you didn’t think you’d leave. The plans you had for the future that never came to fruition because something else got in the way. Life ebbs and flows and to keep up with it we have to do the same. We have to forgive ourselves for having the self-awareness to change our minds about the really big things.

2. The ways in which you fought through pain

The dark paths you shouldn’t have gone down. The crazy things you did in the name of coping that brought about more damage than good. The things you did to keep yourself alive when you didn’t know any better way. The way your survival instinct showed itself when you were too young or helpless to control it doesn’t make you a…

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Read This If You’re Disappointed With The People Around You

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So the people around you let you down.

I’m sorry that you are going through that. I really am. There are few feelings more frustrating than being unsupported when you need support most. Than reaching out and having no one respond. Than slowly falling apart and having nobody around to help keep you together.

I’m sorry that you’re feeling disappointment because it’s an umbrella term for an array of greater agonies. But here’s the truth about disappointment that we all loathe to acknowledge: It has very little to do with whoever let us down. Disappointment is entirely a construction of our own expectations. And no matter how many promises someone else made us, reality has no responsibility to comply with our expectations.

The problem with other people is that they’re never going to understand us as intricately as we understand ourselves. We grow disappointed in the people around us…

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Just Be The One Who Cares More

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Somebody always has to care more.

This is the unfortunate, cardinal rule of how relationships function. If one person didn’t care a teeny bit more than the other, no one would ever get asked out. Or proposed to. Or counselled back from the brink of divorce. Someone always has to put in a tiny bit more effort than the other party is offering and throughout the course of your life, you’re going to be on both sides of the situation at least once.

You’re going to be loved by someone who you just kind of like. You’re going to be head over heels for someone who essentially thinks you’re okay. And I can almost entirely assure you that you’re going to loathe the latter situation. We all do. Being the one who cares more makes you feel uncomfortably desperate – like you suddenly have to justify your entire existence…

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17 Things That Happen When You’re Very Overdriven Yet Also Extremely Lazy At The Same Time

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There exists a very particular breed of human in the world, one that merges the qualities of near apathetic lethargy and a manic desire to achieve. I don’t know how they exist, I don’t know what had to go askew to create such deep conundrums out of people, but I do know that they possess the exact set of traits that somehow also make them most successful: their laziness lends itself to their drive to innovate and make life easier and better for themselves.

Yet, nobody really knows the reality of which these people live: they dust their laziness under the rug or don’t have the energy to self-promote their success… so you never really know where they’re at. You probably might not even know if you’re one of them, but fear not, as I am here to help you self-diagnose and tell you all the weird things that happen…

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The 100 All-Time Greatest Quotes About Falling In Love

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You can’t blame gravity for falling in love.

—Albert Einstein


The higher you build walls around your heart, the harder you fall when someone tears them down.



Don’t you be so nice to me; I fall in love so easily.

—Waylon Jennings


Nobody is perfect until you fall in love with them.



She wasn’t exactly sure when it happened. Or even when it started. All she knew for sure was that right here and now, she was falling hard and she could only pray that he was feeling the same way.

—Nicholas Sparks


In life, you have to take the pace that love goes. You don’t force it. You just don’t force love, you don’t force falling in love, you don’t force being in love – you just become. I don’t know how to say that in English, but you just…

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50 Timeless Pieces Of Advice About Love & Relationships

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Found on AskReddit.


Don’t stay with someone who antagonizes you or belittles you.


If you feel lonely, you’re better off being alone.


Know when to walk away.


You can gauge a person’s love for you by how they treat you when they are upset with you.


Love is a verb, not a noun.


When a lightbulb goes out, you fix the lightbulb. You don’t get a new house.


Don’t settle for someone who has zero regard for your feelings or wants just because you’ve been together a long time.


Just because you love each other does not mean that you’re good together long-term.


No relationship is perfect and there will be conflict. What matters is the desire to solve the problem.


Always fight the problem, not the other person. If you keep this in mind when arguing, you’ll…

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18 Shonda Rhimes Quotes For Every Bad A$$ B*tch Out There

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“When people show you who they are, believe them. I carry that with me a lot. It has served me well.”

“I really hate the word ‘diversity.’ It suggests something … other. As if it is something special, or rare. Diversity! As if there is something unusual about telling stories involving women and people of color and LGBTQ characters on TV. I have a different word: normalizing. I’m normalizing TV. I am making TV look like the world looks. Women, people of color, LGBTQ people equal way more than 50 percent of the population. Which means it ain’t out of the ordinary.”

“You never know the biggest day of your life is your biggest day, not until it’s happening. You don’t recognize the biggest day of your life, not until you’re right in the middle of it. The day you commit to something or someone. The day you get…

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