14 Signs You’re An Emotionally Intelligent Person

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Emotional intelligence is one of the essential soft skills in life that’s incredibly important to personal and professional success but often goes overlooked and undiscussed.

In his new book Promote Yourself: The New Rules for Career Success, author Dan Schawbel talks about emotional intelligence and why it’s so critical to thriving in life. It’s probably one of the best books I’ve read this spring and it made me think about what emotional intelligence means to me and how I see this portrayed in everyday life. Are you an emotionally intelligent person? Here’s how to tell.

1. You’re constantly striving to understand the human condition.

You notice everything – the way someone hesitates before they speak, the way their eyes light up when they see someone they love. You often notice all the things other people seem to miss and you seek understanding for the logic and motivation behind how people…

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7 Dating Lessons I Wish I’d Known Sooner

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1. If someone keeps being flaky or says they are too busy, they are just not that into you.

There is one thing you should always keep in mind that: if someone really wants you, they will make time for you. If not, they will make excuses. No one is that busy to not even have 5 minutes a day to drop you a text, or at least follow through with your plan together if they truly care about you.

Even if they’re genuinely that busy, a decent person will let you know about their situation and probably not string you along by half-ass dating. Also, if a guy keeps having his boiler broken and so he couldn’t take a shower to go meet you (true story), it’s definitely time to jog on.

2. How people treat you is how you allow them to treat you.

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How To Get Over Someone You Never Dated

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Accept the fact that it’s not going to happen. Force yourself to say it out loud, if necessary. Maybe this is precipitated by them moving on and being happy with someone who is decidedly not you, or maybe it’s just from a quiet, repeated demonstration of their romantic disinterest. But the point is that you are never going to be with them – not in the way you want to, not in the way you’ve dreamed about and made elaborate plans for whenever you found yourself unable to sleep at 3 AM. Make yourself understand that sometimes things don’t have a happy ending, and that this is one of those times.

Erase them from your day-to-day life as much as possible — delete your text history, mute (but don’t unfollow) them on every social medium. Take their number out of your phone, so you cannot be tempted. Put…

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11 Things You Don’t Miss About College Until It’s Too Late

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1. The dating pool.

The dating pool seems abysmal when you’re actually in college – everyone’s drunk, wearing sweat pants and has already dated three of your closest friends. But once you exit college, the entire game levels up. It’s not a Russian Roulette of which Tinder match is attractive and successful (Hint: None) and which is drunk, wearing sweat pants and has already dated three of your closest friends. At least in college you had the background dirt on everyone before you went out with them. In the real world, you have to learn everything the hard way.

2. Having a ridiculous amount of roommates.

At a certain point in college you start fantasizing about a place of your own. You’d have privacy! Quiet! Your own bathroom! It seems like the ultimate grown-up treat, until you actually get one and realize how much you miss your…

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But What If I Lost My Lobster?

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His name was Sherlock, a ball of scruff and matted fur and the kind of eyes my dad always called “soul eyes” – those dogs that just look at you with their hearts pouring out. Overflowing with a purity of love and trust that I’ve seen very few humans have. I almost don’t know how to respond to that kind of look. “How can you look at me with so much affection? You don’t even know me!!”

But there he was, adoring and perfect. Sherlock, the West Highland Terrier, eager for his permanent home.

As we approached, his tail picked up windshield wiper speed, thumping back and forth. His baby pink tongue sticking out of his mouth, the goofiest smile that made me want to scoop him up forever, and if we could have, we would. We would have adopted Sherlock on the spot. Our little family of three…

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27 Signs You’re Dating A Guy Who Truly Respects You

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Processed with VSCOcam with k2 preset1. When he introduces you to friends and family, his brief description of who you are makes you blush because he tends to exaggerate your talents and/or greatest personality traits.

2. It turns him on to see you express a strong opinion, whether you’re chatting with people you’ve just met or with longtime friends at a group dinner. You’ll probably catch him out of the corner of your eye, sitting back and smiling, as he watches you gesture like crazy to establish your point.

3. He defers to you on subjects you know more about and asks thoughtful questions about these topics because he genuinely enjoys learning from you.

4. If he’s the expert in a given area, he’s not pompous about it. If anything, he takes great pride in sharing his knowledge and/or instructing you in some way.

5. He thinks it’s endearing—and not a sign of weakness—when you…

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12 Simple Ways To Love Yourself A Little Bit More Each Day

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The night was dark and the breeze is cold. I am sipping my hot coffee within the hidden garden somewhere south of Metro Manila alone when I suddenly picked up my pen and a piece of tissue and wrote “The Love Yourself”. For some reason, I am not aware why did I write these words so I continue sipping my coffee and listening to the music playing from my phone when Ne-yo’s lyrics keep on repeating on my ear – “…let me love you, and I will love you, until you learn to love yourself.” From that moment I believe that God along with all in the universe want to tell me something about this powerful phrase: LOVE YOURSELF.

Sometimes we are so good in showing compassion and care and concern to others; so generous to give love and affection. But do we show and give…

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